Today I think I better understand dysphoria, or at least how it affects me. As I written previously, I never really felt significantly affected but no longer. Today is tough. I know I don’t pass. But I really wish I did. I hate that I might be/am seen as a ‘man’ in a dress. Sometimes… Read More Face Feminisation, Passing and Dysphoria
This may seem like a weird question but in essence it seemed to be implied by one person commenting on my last post. He/she asked (and I’ll use ‘he’for reasons that will become clear) if I was advocating hormones as a ‘diagnostic’. The quick answer is ” certainly not”. I will argue that our sense… Read More Do hormones ‘make a woman’?
…well a trans-woman. So are you a woman? my wife asked. It felt weird answering ‘yes’. At some level I am not a woman. I don’t have the body of a woman, I don’t share the life experiences of a woman. I have grown up with both the privilege accorded to an English male and… Read More How I learnt not to feel a fraud in calling myself a woman
When I was young (and not so young, come to that) I had no idea that gender and sex were not one and the same. Now I know better and my gender definitely does not match my sex. But just how do I label my gender? There are many folk born male and assigned to… Read More Gender Bender
At last a selfie I sorta like to go with my new Twitter account Next step is learning make up!
I’ve been thinking a lot more about names, partly in reflection of my wife’s reluctance for me to change my name. In my male form I am known by all as Tony (short for Anthony) and had intended to transition to Antonia Michele frankly preferring Michele over Antonia (Toni). I then thought to Google to… Read More Naming revisited
My sweet wife and I had a heart to heart the other day. It left me feeling so down that its taken a while before I feel able to write about it.That’s not her fault, it is always best that our partners speak their mind, and I am grateful for that. It seems her dream… Read More Must Transition always be a zero sum process?